For some people, what is going on has been all-consuming, with it being hard for them to function. For others, what is going on hasn’t been something that has totally consumed their mind, with it being possible for them to carry on living their life.

There are then, of course, those who are in the middle, which means that they will have had moments when they are on both sides of the spectrum. What each of these experiences, as well as others, illustrates is that not everyone is or has been having the same experience.

A Big Impact

Now, if someone has rarely left their home during this time and has no plans to change, they are unlikely to have much of a life. So much of what they enjoyed doing before will be out of their reach and they will, in many ways, just be going through the emotions.

As much as part of them will want their life to go back to normal, or as normal as it can be, another part of them won’t want this to take place. The part of them that doesn’t want this to take place will be the part that has the most control.

Perfectly Rational

As a result of this, they will continue to isolate themselves. Still, they could believe that it is perfectly normal for them to behave in this way, considering that there is a killer virus going around.

This will be seen as the best way for them to continue to exist and for their life to not come to an end. There is also the chance that they will have a least one friend or family member who has the same outlook.

In The Same Boat

They are then going to validate this person’s view and this person will validate their view; with both of them being strengthened in the process. When they speak to each other, they could criticise those who don’t have a similar approach.

These people could be seen as being careless and as putting other people at risk. However, even if they don’t know anyone who has the same outlook as them, it doesn’t mean that they will be short of validation.

The Media

Irrespective of whether they read, watch or listen to the news, they are likely to hear a lot of things that validate their view. In general, this source will make out that the virus is incredibly dangerous and, even if things settle down, it might not long until there is a new variant that is said to be even more dangerous than the previous one.

So, to use an analogy, if the waters do settle, it won’t be long until there are big waves once more. And, each time there is a new variant, their stress levels could go up a notch.

Their Experience

Throughout this time, they are likely to have experienced a fair amount of fear and anxiety, making it hard for them to relax and even sleep at night. They may have had a few panic attacks and felt as though they were going to die too.

What may have allowed them to feel more settled, at least momentarily, are the vaccinations that they have received. When a new vaccine or a booster is available, they could be filled with hope and, once they have had it, they could feel safe and secure, if only for a short while.

The Evidence

If they were to think about someone they know who has passed on from the virus, they might not be able to think of anyone. Then again, the person who does come to mind may have already had health problems and thus, it probably wouldn’t be accurate to say that they died of the virus.

They may also know a few people who caught it and were in a bad way for about a week or two. Nonetheless, their point of reference could be the mainstream media, with them overlooking just about anything that doesn’t validate this sources version of what is going on.

Stepping Back

If someone who isn’t scared to leave their house or seldom leaves it and isn’t typically all at sea emotionally, was to hear about someone like this, they could wonder what is going on. They themselves can be seen as being careless and not understanding how serious this all is, yet they can believe that someone like this is overreacting and is out of touch with reality.

Assuming that this is the case, why would someone be unable to rationally respond to what is going on, why would they behave in a totally irrational manner? What this can show is that they are carrying trauma.

The Past Is present

At a deeper level, so beyond their conscious mind, they can be carrying a lot of emotional pain and arousal that goes back to what they experienced during their early years, their birth and/or their time in their mother’s womb. Nonetheless, as their mind/intellect is oblivious to this pain, thanks to repression, they are not aware of the baggage that they are carrying.

But, even though this part of them has no awareness of this pain, it is still influencing their perception and behaviour. Without realising it, they are projecting what has already happened into their present and future.

A Mismatch

What they believe will happen is a reflection of what has already happened. For example, they can fear that they will die, and, most likely, this is how they felt when they were very small, on more than one occasion, and had to disconnect (repress) from this experience in order to survive.

But, as they are not aware of what is going on, they will believe that how they feel and the thoughts that they have are a reflection of what is going on and is, therefore, a perfectly rational response. Ultimately, their thoughts and feelings reflect a stage of their life that is now over.

Final Thoughts

Naturally, if someone is carrying a lot of trauma, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to be present. No matter what is going on externally, what is going on internally, at a deeper level, will add so much more to their experience.

Until they are able to step back and go to the root of their pain, their extroverted mind will always look for evidence ‘out there’ to rationalise what is taking place in their conscious mind. Taking this into account, the media and other sources can then build up what is going on and create the ultimate show, but if it wasn’t for the people who are already in a bad way mentally and emotionally, who are neurotic, and support it, it would be very different.

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